It's so complex.
I was having a conversation the other week with a male friend of mine and at one point it got amusingly heated because though he said he felt he was winning in the end we just ran out of steam. I kept fighting back his argument. I wasn't wholly destroying it because I partly agreed with him, but what I was trying to say was:
Men and women will never be equal because we play from different rule books and speak a different language.
True, no?
Now when I said this to one of my closest female friends she almost slapped me, but hear me out...
I'm not claiming that women are the weaker sex; women lift weights, run ma-hou-sive organisations & countries - we are NOT weak, it's just that most of us merely approach things from a different perspective to men and THAT's what I'm getting at.
It's also driven by the perception of how a woman should act.
Most of the time if a woman says she doesn't want to have children, people bulk. If she has children but leaves them most of the day because of her passion for her work, she's seen as neglectful. If she acts in a way that appears detached, she's viewed as cold-hearted and called a bitch. Men, not so much. They'd be praised and more often than not, promoted.
The conversation all stemmed from a simple question:
Do you think you're confident?
I can be, in situations. On the whole, I wouldn't say I was. As an Aries, confidence is supposed to be ingrained but I have deep insecurities I try to keep hidden, that I cannot explain. One characteristic I do have of a typical Arian is that I hate failure but the fear is so large I just don't try.
When I look in the mirror I'm aware of the things that can be improved, which is bizarre when others around you are saying otherwise.
How easy is it to REALLY change that behaviour and turn limiting beliefs into positive ones?
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